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For Women Who Feel Stuck

Break free from the exhausting patterns keeping you stuck and emerge as the confident, authentic woman you're truly meant to be...

If you're a professional, heart-centered woman who feels there "must be more" to life than this constant cycle of achieving, people-pleasing, and never quite feeling "enough" (despite all your external success) I can show you the exact process to transform your life from the inside out.

The Problem Most High Achieving Women Face

You know all the "rules" of self-improvement. 

You've read the books, tried therapy, done the affirmations, attended the workshops. 

Maybe it works for a few days or weeks – but then everything quickly collapses back to the same exhausting patterns.

You find yourself:

- Feeling chronically stressed despite external success

- People-pleasing your way through 60-hour weeks while barely seeing what matters most

- Seeking external validation from every achievement, promotion, or pat on the head

- Never feeling "enough" no matter how much you accomplish

- Hiding behind busy-ness because slowing down feels terrifying

- Struggling with imposter syndrome that whispers "you don't belong here"

- Carrying emotional baggage that shows up as physical tension, weight issues, or health problems

- Repeating the same relationship patterns over and over, wondering why things never change

Sound familiar?

The frustration is crushing.

You feel shame about not being able to "figure it out" despite being intelligent and capable.

You're embarrassed when people ask how you're doing because the honest answer doesn't match your "successful" exterior.

You lie awake at 3 AM with that familiar anxiety, wondering if you'll ever feel truly at peace.

Your family sees you stressed and overwhelmed, modeling patterns you never wanted to pass on.

Most painful of all? You know you're meant for more, but you can't seem to break free from the invisible cage keeping you stuck.

Why Everything Else Has Failed You

Here's what most people don't understand about lasting transformation:
When your conscious mind battles with your subconscious programming, the subconscious wins every single time.

Think about it. How many times have you:

  • Set goals with great intentions... only to sabotage yourself later?
  • Done affirmations while that little voice says "that's not true"?
  • Made plans to change... then found yourself right back in old patterns?
  • Spent years in therapy telling the same stories without actually moving forward?

This isn't a willpower problem. It's not a motivation problem. It's a subconscious programming problem.

Most approaches – therapy, coaching, self-help – only work at the surface level (your thinking mind).

But the real transformation happens when you align both your conscious intentions AND your subconscious programming.

Introducing... The Chrysalis

The Chrysalis is a 4-month small-group NLP coaching experience that works at the intersection of your conscious and subconscious mind to create lasting transformation.

Instead of giving you more surface-level strategies that you'll abandon in a few weeks, I'll guide you through the exact process that helped me go from chronically stressed Deputy CEO to living my dream life in rural Ireland – and the same method that's helped hundreds of women completely transform their lives.

This isn't just about feeling better. My clients get promotions, publish books, get married after years of waiting, lose 2-4 stone without dieting, heal childhood trauma, and completely transform their relationships.

The Chrysalis programme is a guided exploration through your deepest purpose, values and passions. It supports you to find and connect to your true and highest identity, and harness the power that lives there to recreate your life in the image and service of your best self, rather than the you that slogs, grafts and gets by.

The metaphor is one of the caterpillar – it doesn't know its true power and potential until it goes through that mysterious process of unravelling and flowing out of one form and into another.

It takes a special process of releasing itself from caterpillar structures and expectations before emerging as its greatest self, full of beauty and the freedom to fly.

 

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How The Chrysalis Works

The Chrysalis uses a proven two-part process:

Part 1: Healing & Releasing (Weeks 1-8)

We start by clearing out the major negative emotions – anger, sadness, fear, hurt, guilt – and the limiting beliefs that have been running your life from the shadows. Using advanced timeline therapy, NLP, and other proven methods, we heal the wounds that drive people-pleasing and external validation-seeking.

Part 2: Rebuilding & Creating (Weeks 9-15)

Once the old baggage is cleared, we build a powerful, expansive vision for your life that's so real you can taste it, smell it, feel it in your bones. Then you learn manifestation techniques to make that vision your reality.

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What Makes The Chrysalis Different

1. Both Conscious AND Subconscious Work Unlike coaching that only addresses your thinking mind, or therapy that keeps you stuck in old stories, The Chrysalis aligns both levels of your mind for lasting change.

2. My Unique Background I'm not just a coach who read about transformation in books. I'm a qualified psychologist with 25 years of corporate experience who has walked this exact path. I understand your world because I lived it.

3. Proven Methodology The Chrysalis combines NLP, hypnotherapy, psychology, neuroscience, timeline therapy, mindfulness, and energy work – all within a carefully structured program that builds on itself each week.

4. The Group Container The small group becomes a powerful support framework. You'll realize you're not alone in these struggles and receive love reinforced back to you through women who truly understand.

5. Ongoing Personal Support You get direct access to me via WhatsApp voice notes and messages from the moment you enroll until the program ends. It's like having a therapist in your pocket.

What's Included in The Chrysalis...

The Core Program (15 Weekly Sessions)

  • 15 intensive group sessions (one 2-hour session per week, 3 weeks on, 1 week off for integration)
  • Small group format (maximum 12 women) for personalized attention
  • Carefully structured curriculum that builds transformation week by week

Weeks 1-4 (Foundation & Paradigm Shifts):

Connect with your soulful self and creative power. Learn to access the bliss space before any negative emotions or limiting beliefs. Understand your true values (not what you think you should value) and discover how your life experiences have actually served your growth.

Weeks 5-8 (Deep Release Work):

Release major negative emotions - anger, sadness, fear, hurt, guilt - using advanced timeline therapy. This is where clients like Yasmeen experienced complete transformation from anxiety and depression to inner peace and confidence.

Weeks 9-12 (Manifestation Mastery):

Learn the science and psychology of manifestation. Create your multidimensional vision board. Master nervous system regulation and inner child healing. Develop daily practices to align your actions, thoughts, emotions, and destined path.

Weeks 13-15 (Integration & Future Embedding):

Surface and clear any remaining blocks. Embed your new vision directly into your timeline so your subconscious believes it's your inevitable future. Learn lifelong tools to clear blocks in real time after the program ends.

Exclusive Bonuses (Over £11,000 Total Value)

✅ On-Demand WhatsApp Coaching with Dr. Victoria (Value: £6,000) Personal voice note and text support from enrollment through program completion. Get tailored guidance whenever you need it.

✅ The Success Academy (Value: £999) Complete leadership academy for women with lifetime access.

✅ On-Demand Video Coaching Package (Value: £2,279) Over 20 individual 30-minute coaching sessions you can access anytime.

✅ Chrysalis Audio Vault (Value: £999) Guided visualization recordings to continue your healing work after the program ends.

✅ Daily Insight Oracle Journaling Cards (Value: £959) Digital 60-card set with daily journaling prompts for ongoing self-reflection.

✅ Habits for Happiness Challenge (Value: £127) 5-day intensive to understand and manage your emotions for greater happiness.

✅ Masterclass Vault (Value: £199) 40 hours of professional and personal development masterclasses.

✅ Mini Course Bundle (Value: £20) Short courses on confidence, negotiation, and decision-making.

✅ Certificate of Completion (Value: £50) Official recognition of your 24 hours of dedicated personal development.

Total Bonus Value: Over £11,000

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Listen to Yasmine's experience of The Chrysalis...

"Before entering into The Chrysalis I felt like I had no direction… I had impostor syndrome… struggled with self-esteem, severe depression and anxiety… I wasn't getting growth opportunities at work.. I was definitely being overlooked. As a result of the Chrysalis I have learned to not just love myself but also to heal my inner child… my mom and and sister have described it as literally seeing me change from night to day.. it's been really wonderful to feel so grounded and to see physical manifestations of the changes that I have become being reflected at me. I feel so much more well equipped to face the world and the challenges ahead."

 

You can almost taste your potential but you feel as though you're stuck in the mud, and you can't move forward because you feel blocked, blinded or heavy. 
 
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Testimonials

Hear what some of our clients have to say about their experiences...

Katie

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I had a lot to let go of... I never really had a plan or vision for my future... Work has changed. It feels like I'm starting to to sort of push forward for the future.. having more goals and striving a bit more. So things have just really changed... It's something I definitely would recommend... For me, it's a fresh start.” 

Dani

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“It is so worth it! Zero regrets! I would do it again! I really went in thinking this is for me, my gift to myself and I can definitely confirm that it doesn't just end after the programme. You come out with such a varied toolkit of techniques that you can use and I just think you can't put a price on that. I think everybody should go through this programme!”

ChyAnn

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“I was trying to define my direction. I felt stuck. I felt that I believed I wanted something, but I just wasn't getting where I needed to go. And I felt I just wasn't getting there fast enough.

Honestly, after I was able to really define why I wanted what I wanted… We went through several different exercises… I got a promotion to the job I actually wanted. 

I really liked when we did the release of the blockers, and I just loved the science that goes into some of the exercises.

It was an overall interesting, excellent growth experience. I'll definitely take away the entire experience for the rest of my life and definitely use the tools that were provided into managing things like ambiguity, stress, anxiety.”

Kelly

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"I was looking for developing a bit more self awareness and trying to understand why I felt so under confident... I wanted to develop in my business... I've started to see the results in that. I've fostered better relationships with friends and people... Are you ready to put yourself first? This experience is worth a lot more than the financial. You will get out so much more than you realise."

Iryna

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"I was experiencing this internal conflict ... I just felt stuck, my mental well-being was suffering... nothing worked... I really appreciated a practical hands-on approach and thinking of how we can get there from when I finish the course...It definitely improves your relationship with your colleagues, with your partner, with friends and to be honest with yourself. The value that you get from it stretches into so many directions and I can definitely say that I’m a very different person."

Roberta

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"What brought me to The Chrysalis is that I wanted to get out of my own way and allow myself to enjoy and be successful in whatever I choose to do.

It's very easy for somebody to say - that's come through the other side and it's a bit of a cliche “invest in you / in yourself” - but it really helped me when I saw it as an investment to move forward… To be better, to be able to earn what I want to earn, live how I want to live - that's how I justified the spend on myself. It is an investment, without investment you can't get the rewards or certainly you're not going to get the rewards as fast as you can with the programme."

Rhiannon

“My biggest challenge was that I just felt stuck and I couldn't figure out what I was stuck about and what I needed to do... i just felt completely out of sync with my world... I just wanted to hide away. So much has changed as a result of doing The Chrysalis programme... the group was fantastic... I became "un-struggled" and found an amazing trust in myself.. exciting things have come as a result of participating in the programme... the process was great and had a lovely flow from start to finish. if you can commit to the time - do it - you will honestly not regret it! "

Christine

“I was feeling quite stuck… I felt there was something missing… I couldn't quite put my finger on it but I wanted to change…  I had a lot of self-limiting beliefs and was living automatically instead of on purpose… If challenges come up… I can overcome them… now I have the tools and resources to work through it… There's more excitement in what I do… I have built-in mechanisms to figure out how I can help myself through the next challenge… I think communication with people around me is better… I have more clarity.'

Amal

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"The challenges that brought me to The Chrysalis were speaking up and having confidence… Imposter Syndrome was loud and taking over my day-to-day life… I did burnout in the past… knowing how to prioritise ‘me’ was something that I needed to learn… I’d overwork myself to the point of not having any energy physically and emotionally. From the program I realised what I want to do and what is important to me… it's a safe environment… an investment that you do for yourself and self-care… so I would definitely say go ahead.”

Sandra

"I signed up to the Chrysalis thinking it was a career-focused female empowerment programme, I was delighted to discover that it addressed whole life, identity and vision.

My objectives were to gain clarity on where my life was going. Finding myself at mid-life after a difficult period of failed IVFs, miscarriage, childlessness and surgically-induced menopause, I was directionless and suffering.

Because the programme takes place over six months, I had time to slowly, gently, gradually feel safer in my body and be supported to come back to life. Spending regular time with a compassionate peer group, with reflective homework, tools and the time to apply and learn from techniques (versus just reading about them), was the gamechanger for me. Victoria is a master coach and with a supportive group, I gradually began to find some light again, culminating in a personal vision – best of all I had the time and sounding boards to try on several different iterations, until I found the best version that fits this stage of my life.

Many one-off workshops help for a week or a month but the impact wears off. I write this testimonial four months since the programme ended, I still feel the benefits, peace, clarity and quiet energy from it that drive my life forward now with purpose and intention, and less effort because the confusing questions have lifted.  

My husband reports less tears, that I’ve grown stronger and have more joie de vivre!

Thank you Victoria!"

Karen

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“The biggest challenge was myself and the patterns of behaviour that I adopted from Early Childhood… insecurities… resentment, high anxiety… internalizing lots of pain. A lot of stifling in my life has resulted in illness physical illness, exhaustion, paranoia. What's changed as a result of this program is I'm much more peaceful, I like myself… I'm much more measured and I have absolutely reduce my anxieties…”

Keeley

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“I’d come to a point in my life where I felt as though I'd lost track of what I wanted in life… the programme opened my mind to different ways of thinking… For anybody considering to join the Chrysalis programme, I would seriously suggest you do… I wouldn't give it a second thought… it was the best decision of my life.”

What Your Daily Life Looks Like After The Chrysalis...

In Your Relationships:

  • You naturally set healthy boundaries without guilt
  • You attract people who truly see and value you
  • Your family relationships improve dramatically (often generationally)
  • You might find love or deepen existing relationships from this new, whole place

In Your Career:

  • Promotions and opportunities flow naturally because you operate from self-worth
  • You make decisions aligned with your values, not fear or people-pleasing
  • You might discover entirely new directions that light you up
  • Your professional presence commands respect because you respect yourself

In Your Body & Health:

  • Chronic tension and stress-related symptoms often resolve naturally
  • Many clients lose 2-4 stone without dieting as they release emotional baggage
  • Energy levels increase dramatically
  • Sleep improves as your nervous system learns to feel safe

In Your Inner World:

  • That constant mental chatter and anxiety quiets to a peaceful hum
  • You wake up excited about your day instead of dreading it
  • You feel genuinely confident – not the fake-it-till-you-make-it kind
  • You trust yourself completely to handle whatever life brings

Questions about The Chrysalis

The Chrysalis requires just one 2-hour session per week (often over Friday lunch), with no additional homework. Most participants easily fit this around their working day by taking an extended lunch break.

90% of the work happens in our sessions together. The small daily practices are optional, and there's only one specific homework assignment during the entire 4-month program.

This is the most common fear I hear from women joining The Chrysalis. Over half of my clients express this exact concern in our first session.

Here's the truth: You're not uniquely broken. The patterns you're experiencing – feeling not enough, people-pleasing, seeking external validation – are incredibly common among heart-centered, intelligent women.

I've never had someone complete the program who didn't experience major transformation and give positive feedback. Not once.

This concern melts away quickly. The group becomes one of the most powerful aspects of the program. You'll realize you're not alone in these struggles and form connections with women who truly understand your journey.

As one client said: "It was really cool to hear other people talking about their experiences and a light goes on in your head and you're thinking, 'Wow, this is literally what I was feeling, but I haven't been able to put into words.'"

The next programme will commence on Friday 12th September 2025.

The start date of The Chrysalis is Friday 12th September and the end date is Friday 19th December - this programme will operate as a 3 weeks on 1 week off pattern.

This incredible 4 month small-group NLP Coaching experience, amongst a cohort of carefully selected peers with similar integrity and ambitions to you is designed to unlock a major energetic breakthrough and release you into your full potential, alignment and fulfilment – it is designed to see you fly.

 

At the start...

  • Articulate both the purpose and vision of the life you will create.
  • Uncover and release those beliefs and energetic blocks that hold you back from achieving this. 

In the middle...

  • Address any emotional and energetic blocks -  working at both the conscious and subconscious levels of thinking.
  • Create complete alignment between your emotional and cognitive ways of being.
  • Explore your psychological beliefs and behaviour frameworks.

At the end...

  • Know your true purpose, have a clear path on how to achieve it, and be well underway in making your transformation a reality.

This guilt is actually a symptom of the self-worth issues we address in the program. When you heal and show up better, your entire family benefits. Your marriage improves, your children see a healthier model, and you have the energy and presence to give them your best.

Ready to Transform? Here's What Happens Next...

Step 1: Click the button below to book your complimentary Discovery Call with me.

Step 2: We'll spend 30-45 minutes exploring your situation, your goals, and whether The Chrysalis is right for you.

Step 3: If we're a good fit, you can enroll and immediately gain access to your bonus materials and WhatsApp support.

Step 4: Begin your transformation journey in September with your carefully chosen group of fellow butterflies-in-progress.

The caterpillar doesn't know it's going to become a butterfly. But it trusts the process anyway.

Your transformation is waiting.

— Dr. Victoria Stakelum 

Psychologist, NLP Master Practitioner, and Your Guide Through The Chrysalis