Ever feel like life is just happening to you? Like you’re stuck reacting to whatever comes your way, rather than steering your own path?

This isn't uncommon. It’s easy to slip into blaming circumstances, making excuses, or feeling trapped in situations beyond your control.

But here’s the truth: You have far more power than you think.

The Shift That Changes Everything

In Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), there’s a powerful concept that can transform how you experience life: Living at Cause, Not Effect.

Simply put, it means taking full ownership of your thoughts, actions, and outcomes.

Instead of falling into the BED mindset (Blame, Excuses, Denial), you step into the OAR mindset (Ownership, Accountability, Responsibility).

Why Does This Matter?

When you’re living at effect, life feels like a constant reaction. Things happen, and you respond - often with frustration, resignation, or stress.

But when you shift to living at cause, you take back control. You stop asking, Why is this happening to me? and start asking, What can I do about this?

This isn’t about ignoring challenges - it’s about recognising your ability to influence your own reality.

Small Shifts, Big Impact

Want to start living at cause today? Try this:

✔ Identify one area where you feel stuck - then ask, What’s one action I can take to shift this?

✔ Catch yourself making excuses - instead of focusing on what’s out of your control, reframe it: What CAN I do?

✔ Shift your language - swap “I can’t” for “How can I?”

✔ Look for lessons in challenges - every tough moment holds an opportunity for growth.

✔ Take one inspired action today - even a small step can create momentum.

So, Here's Your Takeaway...

When you take ownership of your mindset, you take ownership of your life.

Confidence, clarity and control come from how you choose to respond - not from external circumstances changing.

Are you ready to take back the reins?

Take a moment and think: What’s one area of your life you’re ready to take full ownership of today?

If you'd like support with shifting your mindset, get in touch. I run a package of sessions and we can get to work to create actionable change in your life. Reach out to me via DM or book in a call with me here. You'll be surprised at how quickly you'll see results.