Deep Personal Transformation Coaching for Professional Women
Led by Dr. Victoria Stakelum – psychologist and former corporate leader – for women who’ve done ‘the work’ and still feel stuck.
What would become possible for you if you could let go of fear, frustration, worry and self doubt?
What would your life be like if you had the confidence, clarity and courage to transform the way you experience the situations and environments you move through?
What if you have far more power to create a life you love, if only you knew how to connect to that power?
If you’ve ever had a niggling feeling of “Surely, I’m destined for more than this” then the Chrysalis could be for you….
Does this resonate?
To other people, your life looks like it’s working. Successful, even.
But you’re the one who knows what it costs to keep it looking that way. There’s still a flicker of “what if they find out” at the start of the new relationship or before the high-stakes meeting. Or the same disconnection keeps finding you – in relationships, in career, with family. Perhaps privately, you’ve started to wonder if the common denominator is you.
You haven’t said any of this out loud. Because from the outside your life looks fine – and admitting how you really feel is deeply uncomfortable, or even seems like it could somehow jinx those things you have successfully created.
Perhaps you’ve already done so much of “the work” – therapy, books, training – and you’re tired of understanding a pattern perfectly and still not being able to change it. Or perhaps you already know exactly what’s wrong. You just haven’t found a way to reach the part of you where it actually lives.
Have you hit a success ceiling you can't really explain?
Do you keep experiencing the same relationship loops?
Is it all of it - but you have never admitted it out loud?
Here’s the tension you’re probably sitting in right now.
You’ve spent years building the stability you have. Even where parts of it don’t quite fit anymore, it’s familiar, and it’s safe. Changing any of it – the career, the relationship, the identity underneath both – can feel like it risks everything you’ve worked for.
That’s exactly what Chrysalis works with. Not by asking you to blow up your career or your relationship to prove you’re serious about changing, but by working with the identity-level patterns underneath them, the ones installed long before you had any say in them.
When those shift, decisions that used to feel impossible – leaving the job that no longer fits, having the conversation you’ve been avoiding, letting someone actually see you – stop feeling like risk, and start feeling like relief instead.
Michelle
“I’d been battling with limiting beliefs and old patterns for years, thinking I didn’t need help because I was a positive, upbeat person — but something was holding me back. The Chrysalis Programme was like switching on the lights in a dark room; suddenly everything was clear. Victoria’s balance of warmth, care, and direct, actionable guidance (not just ‘fluff’) was exactly what I needed. I gained clarity on what I want, became more relaxed and self-compassionate, and even saw huge improvements in my relationships. The small group setting turned out to be incredibly powerful, and having Victoria’s support on demand made all the difference. It’s easily one of the best investments I’ve ever made — truly worth every penny.”
That kind of change doesn’t happen by accident…
Dr. Victoria is a psychologist who spent 20 years in senior corporate leadership before taking her Master’s in Psychology and formalising her training in NLP and identity-level change work.
Chrysalis isn’t NLP with a wellness label on it – it’s psychology-led work that uses NLP, somatic, and ancestral-pattern tools within a framework grounded in how the brain actually encodes and replays behaviour.
You don’t need to believe in anything. You need a nervous system that’s willing to change – and a practitioner who is qualified to work with yours safely.
Listen to Yasmine's experience of The Chrysalis...
“Before entering into The Chrysalis I felt like I had no direction… I had impostor syndrome… struggled with self-esteem, severe depression and anxiety… I wasn’t getting growth opportunities at work.. I was definitely being overlooked. As a result of the Chrysalis I have learned to not just love myself but also to heal my inner child… my mom and and sister have described it as literally seeing me change from night to day… it’s been really wonderful to feel so grounded and to see physical manifestations of the changes that I have become being reflected at me. I feel so much more well equipped to face the world and the challenges ahead.”
Questions about The Chrysalis
How long is the programme?
The programme runs for 4 months and operates as a 3 weeks on 1 week off pattern.
This incredible 4 month small-group NLP Coaching experience, amongst a cohort of carefully selected peers with similar integrity and ambitions to you is designed to unlock a major energetic breakthrough and release you into your full potential, alignment and fulfilment – it is designed to see you fly.
What does the programme consist of?
At the Start: Clarity, Self Awareness and Preparation for Transformation
We uncover and heal the hidden patterns shaping your life right now – your identity, values, emotional drivers, and internal conflicts. You gain deep clarity on:
- What truly matters to you
- Where your life is misaligned
- What has been silently holding you back
Outcome: You stop feeling confused, conflicted, or disconnected – and begin feeling grounded, clear, and emotionally safe to change.
In the Middle: Emotional Release & Nervous System Reset
You release anger, fear, guilt, sadness, and limiting beliefs at the root – not through endless talking, but through subconscious, nervous-system-level change.
You reconnect with your purpose, your strengths, and your inner child, while your body learns it is safe to grow.
Outcome: Emotional weight lifts. Reactivity fades. You feel lighter, calmer, and internally free.
At the End: Identity Shift, Confidence & Forward Momentum
You embody a new self-concept, anchor your future identity, and lock in aligned behaviour through visioning, manifestation, and commitment. You are no longer “trying” to become someone new – you are her.
Outcome: You leave with clarity of direction, emotional resilience, self-trust, and the confidence to move boldly into your next chapter.
When does the programme start?
We are currently preparing our next intake, Starting on 6th November 2026. Book a call with Dr Victoria by clicking here to discuss joining this or a future cohort.
Where do I enrol?
If you have already had a conversation with Dr Victoria and are ready to enrol, you can do so here https://pfnl.co/syt4dxt. Alternatively, email Victoria@thesuccesssmith.com to enquire about pricing plans or book an appointment to discuss your suitability to the programme.
Is it safe to go this deep in a group setting?
This work is done with a carefully selected and deliberately small cohort. The first phase of the programme is spent building real group cohesion before any deeper material is approached – including shared contracting, so everyone in the room agrees together, upfront, on how safety and confidentiality work before anything vulnerable is shared. As a psychologist, Dr. Victoria paces the depth of the work to what the group is ready for, not the other way round.
What consistently surprises participants is what forms as a result: genuine, trusted relationships with women who understand exactly what they’re carrying – often closer than they expected from people they barely knew a few months earlier. This is trauma-informed work, not clinical trauma therapy – difficult material is worked with carefully, never forced or rushed.
What is the time commitment?
Chrysalis runs on a 3-weeks-on, 1-week-off rhythm, deliberately built for women managing demanding jobs, teams, and households – not something extra to squeeze in on top of everything else, but a process designed to fit inside a full life.
Many women describe this as being like an oasis of calm within a busy week – an opportunity to exhale and be held. We avoid homework and resources – all the work takes place in the group container.
It’s also worth naming honestly: the women who worry most about time are often the ones already spending real energy managing the symptoms of being stuck – the rumination, the compensatory overworking, the low hum of anxiety that never quite switches off.
Four months of structured work is a smaller time cost than staying in that pattern indefinitely.
Will I get enough individual attention in a group?
Absolutely. This isn’t a webinar with a Q&A bolted on. This is a small group container in which Dr. Victoria works directly with each participant’s specific situation throughout. This is a small, carefully selected cohort of women at a comparable level of self-awareness to you.
The group itself is part of the mechanism, not a compromise on it. Being witnessed by peers who are genuine equals – who don’t need your situation explained or softened for them – produces a kind of energetic shift that one-to-one work can’t replicate. If you’d like to explore this before committing, a discovery call with Dr. Victoria is the best place to do that.
Will this help my career, my relationships, or both?
Both. The pattern that makes you shrink in the boardroom and the pattern that makes you disappear in relationships are rarely two different problems. They’re usually the same pattern, showing up in two different rooms.
Chrysalis works at that root level, which is why participants often arrive focused on one area and find real movement in both – several of the testimonials below describe exactly that.
Testimonials
Dani
“I had a lot to let go of… I never really had a plan or vision for my future… Work has changed. It feels like I’m starting to to sort of push forward for the future.. having more goals and striving a bit more. So things have just really changed… It’s something I definitely would recommend… For me, it’s a fresh start.”
ChyAnn
“I was trying to define my direction. I felt stuck. I felt that I believed I wanted something, but I just wasn’t getting where I needed to go. And I felt I just wasn’t getting there fast enough.
Honestly, after I was able to really define why I wanted what I wanted… We went through several different exercises… I got a promotion to the job I actually wanted.
Kelly
“I was looking for developing a bit more self awareness and trying to understand why I felt so under confident… I wanted to develop in my business… I’ve started to see the results in that. I’ve fostered better relationships with friends and people… Are you ready to put yourself first? This experience is worth a lot more than the financial. You will get out so much more than you realise.”
Iryna
“I was experiencing this internal conflict … I just felt stuck, my mental well-being was suffering… nothing worked…
I really appreciated a practical hands-on approach and thinking of how we can get there from when I finish the course…It definitely improves your relationship with your colleagues, with your partner, with friends and to be honest with yourself. The value that you get from it stretches into so many directions and I can definitely say that I’m a very different person.”
Roberta
“What brought me to The Chrysalis is that I wanted to get out of my own way and allow myself to enjoy and be successful in whatever I choose to do.
It’s very easy for somebody to say – that’s come through the other side and it’s a bit of a cliche “invest in you / in yourself” – but it really helped me when I saw it as an investment to move forward… To be better, to be able to earn what I want to earn, live how I want to live – that’s how I justified the spend on myself. It is an investment, without investment you can’t get the rewards or certainly you’re not going to get the rewards as fast as you can with the programme.”
Rhiannon
“My biggest challenge was that I just felt stuck and I couldn’t figure out what I was stuck about and what I needed to do… i just felt completely out of sync with my world… I just wanted to hide away. So much has changed as a result of doing The Chrysalis programme… the group was fantastic… I became “un-struggled” and found an amazing trust in myself.. exciting things have come as a result of participating in the programme… the process was great and had a lovely flow from start to finish. if you can commit to the time – do it – you will honestly not regret it! “
Christine
“I was feeling quite stuck… I felt there was something missing… I couldn’t quite put my finger on it but I wanted to change… I had a lot of self-limiting beliefs and was living automatically instead of on purpose… If challenges come up… I can overcome them… now I have the tools and resources to work through it… There’s more excitement in what I do… I have built-in mechanisms to figure out how I can help myself through the next challenge… I think communication with people around me is better… I have more clarity.’
Amal
“The challenges that brought me to The Chrysalis were speaking up and having confidence… Imposter Syndrome was loud and taking over my day-to-day life… I did burnout in the past… knowing how to prioritise ‘me’ was something that I needed to learn… I’d overwork myself to the point of not having any energy physically and emotionally. From the program I realised what I want to do and what is important to me… it’s a safe environment… an investment that you do for yourself and self-care… so I would definitely say go ahead.”
Karen
“The biggest challenge was myself and the patterns of behaviour that I adopted from Early Childhood… insecurities… resentment, high anxiety… internalizing lots of pain. A lot of stifling in my life has resulted in illness physical illness, exhaustion, paranoia.
What’s changed as a result of this program is I’m much more peaceful, I like myself… I’m much more measured and I have absolutely reduce my anxieties…”
Llinos
“I wasn’t sure what to expect when I joined the Chrysalis Programme – but what I received was far beyond anything I could have imagined. Victoria went above and beyond, offering a depth of coaching that sparked a profound mental shift. I now feel a genuine sense of agency in everything I do, and that has transformed how I move through life.
Towards the end of the programme, a difficult family illness arose. In the past, that might have derailed me. But instead of becoming overwhelmed, I found myself steady and grounded – thanks to the skills and mindset I’d developed through Victoria’s guidance. Her support didn’t just help me cope; it helped me thrive.
I’ve come to know myself in a way that allows me to act without harsh self-judgment. That shift has opened the door to a life I truly love – one filled with enjoyment rather than a never-ending task list. I’ve discovered a niche that excites me and brings me joy.
There were no dramatic overnight changes. Instead, what I experienced was a quiet, enduring transformation – a foundational shift in how I approach life. And that shift is now helping me get the absolute most out of every moment.”
Keeley
“I’d come to a point in my life where I felt as though I’d lost track of what I wanted in life. In my relationship I was feeling wasn’t successful and I was being overlooked. I’d had past relationship troubles that I’ve never really got over them. I just didn’t really know how to make myself heard.
…the programme helped me to reconnect with myself in a safe place… it opened my mind to different ways of thinking, but it was a very gentle process…
For anybody considering to join the Chrysalis programme, I would seriously suggest you do. I was concerned initially from a finance point of view, but when you look at the benefits and the resources and the tools are at hand, I wouldn’t give it a second thought… it was the best decision of my life. I’m happy with the person that I am today. That’s a priceless gift to have.”
Sandra
“I signed up to the Chrysalis thinking it was a career-focused female empowerment programme, I was delighted to discover that it addressed whole life, identity and vision.
My objectives were to gain clarity on where my life was going. Finding myself at mid-life after a difficult period of failed IVFs, miscarriage, childlessness and surgically-induced menopause, I was directionless and suffering.
Because the programme takes place over six months, I had time to slowly, gently, gradually feel safer in my body and be supported to come back to life. Spending regular time with a compassionate peer group, with reflective homework, tools and the time to apply and learn from techniques (versus just reading about them), was the gamechanger for me. Victoria is a master coach and with a supportive group, I gradually began to find some light again, culminating in a personal vision – best of all I had the time and sounding boards to try on several different iterations, until I found the best version that fits this stage of my life.
Many one-off workshops help for a week or a month but the impact wears off. I write this testimonial four months since the programme ended, I still feel the benefits, peace, clarity and quiet energy from it that drive my life forward now with purpose and intention, and less effort because the confusing questions have lifted.
My husband reports less tears, that I’ve grown stronger and have more joie de vivre!
Thank you Victoria!”
Chrysalis isn’t an open-ended expense like ongoing therapy or another course that doesn’t quite land. It’s a structured, four-month process with a defined outcome – designed to be the thing that finally makes sense of everything you’ve already invested in yourself.
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Want to know more?
If you’re interested and would like to have further details about The Chrysalis programme then feel free to book in a call with Victoria who will be happy to chat through the programme and answer any questions you may have.
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